Two rules for raising confident children

Again I have the honor to share a post by Tim Van Der Vliet, Zen from Amsterdam – please enjoy!

tim-and-fam-2

Hi! I am not a parenting Guru. The only thing I do is learn from my experience as a dad. We have 4 children, aged 17, 15, 12 and 3. The core guidelines for the upbringing of our children are very simple. A short disclaimer! These are my guidelines, not my wife’s. We have two very different cultural backgrounds. My wife is Japanese and I am Dutch. So we show our children two very different cultures, languages and rules.

I have two main rules or guidelines. These are:

1) You have your own path

2) You can talk to me about anything

Please let me explain how these very simple guidelines helped my children to become more confident and how they keep me connected with them.

1) You have your own path
From a very very young age, so for as long as they can remember, I have told the kids that they have their own path. I’ve come to think that most responsibilities in life are merely a game of the mind. We feel we are responsible for things that might not be our responsibility. We feel responsible for the happiness of other people for example. I sometimes feel responsible for my mother’s happiness and also of my children’s. I was contemplating on how real this idea is (I contemplate a lot on things that seem straightforward but do not necessarily have to be). For what am I actually really responsible?

For all or nothing?
In a way we are all responsible for each other. We are all responsible for the state of the world, the poverty, our children, our neighbours, friends and fill in whatever you like. Having stated this so boldly, how can we have a positive impact on all these matters? “How can I show the world that the future is bright?”, I thought. What can I do to have a positive impact? For me, the way to show there is a different way is to show other people that I am happy, or as happy as I can be.

I am only responsible for my own happiness

By telling my children that they too are responsible for their own happiness they take the responsibility for their lives into their own hands. My daughter, when she was 3 years old, said “do it myself” all the time. From that age she wanted to make her own bread and pick her own clothes. And yes, even if the match was terrible to my standards I let her. After all, she has her own path. Pink, purple and orange may be a good match after all (somewhere in the future ;). Now she is 15, she does great at school (with a little help from me), she sings (OMG I am so proud!), she plays the guitar and piano, she puts her own alarm clock, makes her own lunch, and a healthy smoothie in the morning for the whole family. Yes I am proud, sorry if I overdo it.

Taking responsibility into ones own hands
“You have your own path” is a way for telling my kids that they are responsible for their own happiness, they make their own decisions and I trust their decision making process. Now 3 of the children are adolescents. If they ask me if they can do something my answer is: “What do you think yourself?”. “Can I skip school?” is answered by “What do you think yourself?”. If they say “Sure I can skip school!”. I say: “OK, go ahead but I have nothing to do with it. So if you get caught… Good luck!”.

They also became more confident because of guideline no 2:

2) You can talk to me about anything

In my path of personal development I learnt that silence, finding some form of silence, is essential to see things in perspective. I learnt to meditate. At this moment this is (almost) a daily practice.

But finding a form of silence is only one part. Many people that meditate forget that the opposite of finding silence is also important: making noise. Making noise is about expressing yourself. I have written a blog about making noise. Click to read.

I learnt to express myself from my children when they were young. 2-3 year old children express themselves without any form of shame. When the are sad they cry and when they are happy they laugh. When they need help they ask for it and when they want to give help they give it. Nice and simple.

But then come the puberty years. Do you remember your puberty years? I do. Beautiful and terrible times at the same time. Everything changes. Falling completely in and out of love in a rapid pace. My skin was so bad (OMG). I was very insecure but not trying to show that (a typical male you may think :).

So how can you help your children to express themselves? To be a bit flexible and remember your own puberty years. When is it possible to express yourself when you are an adolescent? Not at school because your friends opinions matters to you. Not on your bike to school. If you cannot release at home, how and where would it be possible? So I allow them to express themselves at home.

You can talk to me about anything

An anecdote
One of my adolescent daughters (the same that said “do it myself” above) looked absolutely beautiful and highly fashionable, according to my standards. She however felt she wasn’t wearing the right outfit. She was angry, very angry. She was using the f-word and the s-word and some more of the Dutch equivalents. I could have been strict. I don’t really like swearing from such a young mouth. But instead I remembered how I felt exactly the same when I was her age. So I just helped her. “What do you need so you can leave for school?” I helped her with her lunch, water in a bottle and that scarf that was in her room.

She left her rage at home, by expressing herself. Out that stuff!

That afternoon she came back from school and told me: “Daddy, I was a bit harsh this morning… Sorry.” I said: “I love you, you know that?”.

I am only opening doors here. I don’t expect my children to talk to me. But if they do I am, OK try to be, completely unjudgemental.

From 1) You have your own path; I learnt to trust my children and their path. They learnt they can trust me. From 2) You can talk to me about anything; we can both practice that mutual trust. They know they can express themselves, through music and playing instruments but also through anger and tears.

And the side effect is that our household is relatively quiet and peaceful.

Makes me happy….

Bye!
Tim

If you feel this blog can help somebody else, please forward it. They may be grateful. I sure would!!

Link to blog: http://www.timvandervliet.com/blog/

Tim Tedx Profile pic

Tim

 

 

Children make us think !!!!

children and animal love
children and animal love
By The Founder of conscious parenting on Facebook – Pearl Shanti

 

There is no right or wrong way to live YOUR Life…
It is about what make you and your family HAPPY,HEALTHY AND WEALTHY in every area of LIFE
It is all about what WORKS
When you have found what works for you and your Family – then you live your life in BLISS
When you live your life in BLISS
You live in PEACE, LOVE AND HARMONY every day !
Nobody else but YOU can tell if you have found this KEY OF LIFE

For many years children have asked us this question:

“Why do we kill to survive ?
Do we have to eat meat ?
What is meat ?
Why do the animals have to die – so we can eat ?
IF we LOVE animals – why eat them ? ”

Children are thinkers – they are philosophers and have a deeper contact with their body, feelings and intuition than we adults usually have.
What has saddened us to observe is how strongly adults react when children question their choices and decisions and what is important in LIFE.
Far too often the question is hushed up with explanations intending to convince the child and a fear to let go of what the child is questioning.
Grown ups may say that the native Indians and aboriginals are very spiritual people – and that they consume meat in “ A VERY RESPECTFUL WAY “ – following that is must be both right and spiritual….
“ So please stop this nonsense and eat your chop ! “

It is more important for the parent to hold on to the conviction than listening to his own body – and least of all listen to what the child is sharing about his own body and thoughts.

This summer many teenagers have been visiting us, and they have shared their feelings.
They feel it is very frustrating not to be seen for who they are.
They tell their parents that they no longer will eat animals – a being with a beating heart, eyes that see and a brain that thinks.

They are laughed at and mocked by the grown ups, who say things like:

- You kill the lettuce too !
- Then you can eat animals – they do not have brains to think with!
- Such nonsense !
- You live here – and have to eat what is served !
- You can choose when you are 18 !

If we do not take their questions seriously – do we respect our children then ?

This summer a teenager girl asked us when the adults were going to grow up.
She said:

“ They have forgotten to be children – yet they do not act like adults – they are in between somewhere. They seem to be like a robot – without feelings – and who is not able to do anything besides what it is programmed to do. “

Why do children ask these questions ?

It makes you think, doesn`t it ?

We think these questions are fantastic !

If you have been eating meat your whole life and enjoy it – there is nothing wrong with that. Celebrate your choices.
Yet – one day you might receive a message from within. Your body simply wakes up one morning and refuse to eat more animal products.
This happened with me, Pearl Shanti.
Suddenly I saw a deeper meaning with life- and EVERYTHING living.

During my whole childhood I asked the same questions as the ones we were asked this summer.
I come from a butcher`s family with Italian bloodlines – where food and family means EVERYTHING.
There was ALWAYS healthy and FRESH GOURMET food on the table.
But for me – eating meat was just not right….

So I know very well how it is to be a child with a deep inner contact – being “forced” to eat something which feels unnatural.
I was mostly respected in my childhood – and the table was always abundant with fruits, vegetables and nuts…as long as I ate a LITTLE meat, anyway.
I continued with this as I grew into adulthood.

But 15 years ago – when my oldest boy was conceived, this changed. When I was pregnant – I had dreams at night and visions in the daytime, where he told me that he wanted to live in his new body as a vegetarian.
After that first conversation with my son – my life changed completely.
It was easy to stop –because I previously had just tasted a little meat at family dinners on rare occasions.
So imagine the challenge being educated as a French Gourmet Chef ???

I became more and more conscious and I went through a period of a powerful personal growth.
To be sure I had stood out throughout the years – with my spirituality, healing abilities and being a health freak.

But there is more to it than that….

Everything is a step in the development process.

As a meat eater(which we learn from our parents) we wake up one day and become a vegetarian.

Later we feel it is right to become a vegan.

All the time our body tell us the next step, the next level of consciousness.

Some choose to become raw foodists, focusing on living foods or becoming fruitarian.
Some think that this is the highest level of consciousness , but it is only a rung on a long ladder.
We may choose to “jump” the whole ladder at once, if the body allows it. Or we may choose one rung at the time – following the body`s needs – which are the opposite of the ego.

Our body will tell us the next step – if we really LISTEN.

The next step is to live on LIGHT –prana.

Something which is unfamiliar in the western societies , but well known in India.
We nourish ourselves on our inner LIGHT, BREATH and only focus on EVERYTHING POSITIVE.
The level of consciousness is now enormous.

But there is more…

The next level is to live on LIGHT, prana – without water.

Are there still more levels of consciousness ?

Yes indeed, many more…

When we lived in India we lived close to Sri Aurobindo`s ashram. Nearby was a wide river. Lowered in the water, a yogi was sitting with a stone anchor tied around his waist.
We could see his movements when he changed his position now and then. When we left he had been sitting there for 3 months.

Many think that this MUST BE A HOAX. Maybe we had thought so too –unless we hadn`t witnessed it ourselves.

Oftentimes we get the following question:

“Everything is living – so what is the difference between a leaf of lettuce and a chicken ? “

We usually give two answers at the same time :

NOTHING AND EVERYTHING

Because everything is ALIVE and a part of our consciousness process on the path to enlightenment .
Yet –the feelings of an animal and ourselves are closer to each other from a soul perspective.
At the same time I have been so lucky to see into the plant kingdom where they live with a cellular intelligence surpassing that of animals and humans.
And plants give us more than food. Without the plants we would not have existed. They create the air that we pollute – the air that we and our children breathe.
They are very much alive – and it is not more “right” to eat them than the animals. Yet they contribute on the next step of awakening . A connecting link between living on meat and living on LIGHT .

In India we made a funny discovery. There was this green little bush called “Touch me not”. This bush proves that plants have FEELINGS.
As soon it is touched – it withdraws….

This is something our family respects – in our process of awakening.
We have one vegetarian, one fruititonist, raw foodists and one who has mastered living on LIGHT.
We do not critize each other`s decisisons.
In our home the food is served according to our specific choice.

In Italy there is this an amazing ashram , near Torino, where they have researched on the frequencies of plants and the the love frequency they send out to people in form of colour, light and tones. This has been recorded and it is easy to hear the song of the plants.

The Welsh Plant Medicine Healer Colin Kingshott sells CD`s with the healing music from plants.
Many children are able to see animal spirits and plant spirits and their beauty. They can hear them as well.
This is why children are questioning our robot-like and sleepy habits.
It is all about different forms and levels of consciousness – WE ARE ALL
ONE !


We are ONE with the ANIMAL KINGDOM !
We are ONE with the PLANT KINGDOM !
We can choose to respect ALL LIFE FORMS !

Again, we need not feel guilty for eating meat. Yet – we ask you to be open when a child tells you that she doesn`t like to eat meat. We do because it is a habit….children may easily form new and better habits, because they are closer to source and have a stronger contact with their body temples.

Yes – the plants have feelings – and they also give their life.
Receive Mother Earth`s gifts of abundance with HONOUR,RESPECT AND HUMILITY.

Give thanks to each tomato!
Give thanks to each lettuce leaf !
Hug a tree, become grounded and receive healing!
Everything lives !

How can we live on LIGHT ?

The answer is that we have EVERYTHING WITHIN.
WE NEED NOTHING OUTSIDE OUR BODY TEMPLE.

There is no right or wrong way to live YOUR Life…
It is about what make you and your family HAPPY,HEALTHY AND WEALTHY in every area of LIFE
It is all about what WORKS
When you have found what works for you and your Family – then you live your life in BLISS
When you live your life in BLISS
You live in PEACE, LOVE AND HARMONY every day !
Nobody else but YOU can tell if you have found this KEY OF LIFE

All the time we are in the magical valley of transformation where there is a ladder waiting for ALL of us – if we are willing to see.
Some climb the rungs with care – others with full openness.
The children knew about this valley all the time.
And when we make excuses – we pull them away from the Valley of Truth….

So the question is:

How do we answer this question – when the child has his/her own truth within ?

 

Respectfully and humbly shared with LOVE

Pearl Shanti

Please leave your comment and push the share button.

Join us on our fan page conscious parenting on Facebook.

PS

We could write an entire book on this subject – and it is difficult to cover everything in an article.

In fact, we have been asked if we can write a book about this – and we have now decided that this is the beginning of an ebook – and if you want to take part in this ebook with questions, sharings and solutions – or contribute in one way or another – please feel free to leave a comment and share your thoughts.

We are waiting for you !!!

The child is the man`s father…

This famous quote from William Wordsworth is very true and profound.

Indeed I have a wonderful example of this from my own relationship with my son Leopold.

As many of you know Pearl Shanti and Leopold moved to the village Vilcabamba in Ecuador last September. I saw them off to London.
At that time they were not online – and I talked to them on the telephone and we wrote letters to each other.
I had a trying period with a law suit against my former employee at that time – and honestly I did not do my very best regarding writing letters to him. It should have been an obvious thing to do – since I was missing them a lot and thinking of them every day. No excuses ! However – somehow I assumed that it was enough to write a lengthy letter to his mother and a short one to him !
Wrong again, of course !
He was a 6 year old who could read and write and the “man” in the family now!
In a beautiful way he reminded me about what my first priority should have been.
Children have this ability to say the truth no matter what.

Here is an excerpt:

Dear papa !
Are you doing well ?
I am 6 years old.
But I wonder why you write very short letters ?
Typical you – a grown up man !
Could you please be so kind to write more the next time?
Hugs from your son Leopold”

Wonderful, isn`t it?

It is said that the truth shall set us free. And our greatest mentors are our children. They love us more than we can understand – and this we unfortunately tend to forget in the busy,so called “important”, grown up timeframe.

My son taught me a valuable lesson here – for which I am eternally grateful.

Lesson from my children: “What’s his problem?!”

Last week Enlightened Children introduced our guest blogger, Tim Van Der Vliet from Amsterdam,Holland. This week he will share the following blog post with us:

Lesson from my children: “What's his problem?!”

Situation:

Two of the terrible three (my 3 older children of 17, 15 and 12) are fighting over … (I really don’t know what it’s about).

One of them says, no yells: “Daddy!!! She’s doing (bla di bla – fill in whatever you like) to me!!!

I say: “Hey, the only thing you can blame me for is that I have made you two.

But so did your mama so go and ask her if she wants to be your referee.”

They never go to mama. They fight their fights and solve them themselves.

No more referee daddy Tim.

Later when all is quiet and Zen from Amsterdam has returned, I say:

“ Girls! Great problem solving you two!”

Sitting in peace next to each other they look at me and I can hear them think:

“What’s his problem?!”

 

If you feel this blog can help somebody else, please forward it. They may be grateful. I sure would!!

Link to blog: http://www.timvandervliet.com/blog/

Tim Tedx Profile pic

Tim

Zen from Amsterdam

Enlightened Children has the honor to have this wonderful man from Holland, Tim van der Vliet, as a guest blogger the coming weeks- with totally 3 articles. But first, let him introduce himself!

 


Hello!

Tim Tedx Profile pic

I’m Tim van der Vliet and my mission in life is to spread Zen from Amsterdam. Zen from Amsterdam is my own, homemade philosophy, “Zen” without rules. Zen is a word used here in Amsterdam when everything is just right, even if it is just for a moment.

If you’d like to read a free sample of my new book:

Daddy, You Really Don’t Understand Anything… Do You?!

Give it a click!

What is Zen from Amsterdam and what can you get out of it? Being happy and leaving a legacy.

How do you become happy and how can you leave a legacy? This starts with creating and following your own rule book. If you want to follow your intuition there are no other rules to live by but your own… I’d like to teach you how to get in touch with your intuition and how to get to know your rules!

Here is a taste of what Zen from Amsterdam is…

 

Being your own Guru, having your own path and creating your own rulebook is where Zen from Amsterdam starts, level 1. Level 2 and 3 of Zen from Amsterdam is about how you can create your own rulebook. I use this template in my talks, in my coaching and in my business. Read more about Zen from Amsterdam here.

Want to here me speak? These are my current talks:

Workshop Daddy, You Really Don’t Understand Anything… Do You?! aka The Workshop For Problem Parents

Open Up and Feel the Force, Personal Development and One Step Further

Do What You <3 and Make It Your Business

The Art of Zen Investing and Business

Leave a legacy

Or go to my speaking page.

I was a trader in the financial world and learned many lessons about myself during that time. And I still do because I still spend two to four hours a month as a trader. I learned how to incorporate following my heart into daily life and manage to have more than enough to raise 4 children and have time to help them with their homework (and do fun stuff for myself!). I was able to build a bridge between making my dreams come true and reality here on Earth, e.g. house, money, kids, good food, time management etc.. You may find in my blogs that Zen from Amsterdam is this bridge. I make spirituality easier to understand so you can use it in everyday life. I come across life lessons in seemingly very normal things like table tennis, football, the financial world, mathematics and of course the neighbour’s dog!! See the 5 free lessons in the sidebar —>. I hope that my path, which is full of failures and imperfections, can inspire you…

Blogs:

In my blogs you can read about Zen from Amsterdam. In 2010 I quit my job, turned my life upside down, wrote a book and started spreading Zen from Amsterdam. I started telling people about my philosophy through coaching, speaking, courses and my blogs. It’s pretty scary sometimes to speak from your heart. But I managed so far!

If you want to unleash your full potential and you don’t know how or you are looking for some extra inspiration, this blog is for you.

I write on:
Zen from Amsterdam Life Style
Health, Bodywork & Energy
Work-Life Balance
Dreaming & making your dreams come true
Children & Parenting
Screwing it up but learning from it

You can expect at least one blog a week.

Link to blog: http://www.timvandervliet.com/blog/

Children are Mankind’s Precious Gifts – does the society value them ?

By
Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart

The newborn baby is looking out, ready to embrace the wonderful world, a new life.

 

The Miracle of Life
The Miracle of Life

 

The baby is coming from a place free of limitations, materialism, violence and war. He is enveloped in a glow of safety, unconditional love, the light and the freedom to be…himself. The devoted love a baby brings to the earth enchants us all. But pretty soon he meets the rules, fears and limitations of society. His perfect, little body is injected with poison. The poison is called vaccines. The vaccines are supposed to protect against diseases, but they break down the perfect immune system. The child grows up, and gets reactions, maybe behaviourproblems, because of the injections. He is labelled and diagnosed, and administrated more poisons so that society can accept him.

Children with special gifts – even though they have not been vaccinated, are diagnosed. More and more children are diagnosed, and more and more types of diagnoses are invented. Their unique talents and gifts, which they are born with, are supressed in order to fit the small, square boxes which are labelled “normal” by society.

 

Children needs their parents
Children needs their parents

 

And if someone dares to be different – he is cut, adjusted and shaped to fit societys “needs “. And the child becomes even more unbalanced because of this stress and strain. And then people say: ” There is something wrong with this child since he can not adjust to the society”… But isn`t there something wrong with society – since it is not able or willing to see or accept the child for who he is ? Why rectify something that originally was perfect ? There are enlightened cultures that see this. There are parents who remove their children from schools and kindergardens ,and choose home school instead. These conscious parents can “see” their children and their needs. They can see the greatness in their children, the love, light and unlimited potential. These parents shields their children from vaccines, TV, junk food and other limitations and programmings. However, it is oftentimes the enlightened families who are in danger of being reported to the social security office in the western world, accused of child neglect due to lack of ordinary school and lack of vaccinations…and in some countries the children will be taken away from their parents because of this.

 

Babies need their parents caring
Babies need their parents caring

 

And sometimes parents with home school are even accused of being a sect…

This is not about right or wrong – it is about what works and what does not work. We do not have to be geniuses to conclude, when we look at the world, that the methods in use do not work.

Do we really know the consequences of forcing children into a school system that is designed to create obedient consumers and soldiers ? What we give the children are illusions and limitations. If the existing school system works, why are there not more geniuses amongst us ? Instead we can observe that the school system has dumbed us down. We can not force knowledge into a students head. Even the word “education” is misunderstood. It is derived from latin, meaning to extract from within… To learn by rote just shows that a person knows certain facts at a certain time. If knowledge is taught in a playful and joyful manner, babies can achieve amazing results. They prove that they can learn reading, maths and several languages. And they love it ! Why ? Because they are taught with love , patience and lots of praise ! More and more parents are now waking up, and together we are strong. We are all children of God. And our children are our precious jewels, Gods gift to Humanity. Parents have come to be givers of life…the most beautiful joy in the world.

giraf kissing her baby

The connection between mother and child is unbreakable – it is coded in our genes.

*note
This post was originally posted in 2009

Yours Sincerely,

Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart

I am a humble messenger for humanity, honored to of be here and to serve.

Author, Speaker, Visionary, Wayshower 

pearl:signatur-email

Being normal is the opposite of being Natural!!!

*The children are here to LIVE out their best potential-they are not here to please you!
But to be “I AM”- it should be your greatest JOY!!!


Children wants to copy

If the children are not supported for their uniqueness, they start automatically copying their surroundings, they are then shaped into copies of copies – with their grief, with the hope of being seen and accepted as perfect. Which is an enormous tragedy, since they entered this planet in a 100% perfect state – as being themselves !!!

The image shared here today is painful and strong, it shows the truth about what our children lose in themselves with the application techniques that surround us in everyday life, which constantly tells what is “wrong” with the body.
It is natural for children at a young age to begin to compare themselves with others-to get the attention of society.

This not only changes the children, but they also lose fully and completely the self-image in their teens, by then they have reached the target of the copy process-and they start life as a copy of a copy.

The children have then disclaimed themselves and their uniqueness totally.

Surrounded with “Beauty”- Magazines, TV, movies, commercial and advertising, fashion and more, our children are robbed of their future.
If we lead them into this “fabricated” way of living, we sculpture and shape them to those illusions, we choose for them, we are creating their lives and future based on our actions and decisions.
We can expand our consciousness and shield them from all forms of programming.
Innocent they came to our world, but not “FROM” our world, they came with great gifts and enlightened insight.
We slowly rob them and try make them fit our limited life-view, instead of opening up their world, which is 100% more perfect than our world !!! Happily, more and more parents are now stepping into their hearts-there lies the true intelligence for the future of our Children´s world!
Every child, is equipped with their UNIQUENESS, BEAUTY and GIFTS that overcome ALL of our ILLUSIONS, if we dare to see into their world before we imprint ours on them!

I would LOVE to honor the work  and credit  you Meg Gaiger/Harpyimages, who really gave me the inspiration to wrote this article.
Meg Gaiger/Harpyimages.deviantart.com

Dare to make sure that the Masters stay as they are-PERFECT is their UNIQUENESS!

Yours Sincerely,

Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart

I am a humble messenger for humanity, honored to of be here and to serve.

Author, Speaker, Visionary, Wayshower 

pearl:signatur-email

“I am your HEART Whisperer. I have come to AWAKEN the wisdom YOU already have within YOU!!”

 
Learn About My Foundation and My Work:
 
My Publishing Work and Portfolio:
Conscious Parenting eBook
“The Inca Spirit” Magazine
STAY Always in LOVE with LIFE and Always in LOVE with YOU!!!”

Founder & CEO of Hearts For A New LIFE Foundation

                                   Testimonials ~

I consider Pearl Shanti to be one of today’s most visionary spiritual teachers, especially in the area of conscious parenting. Her compassion and acute understanding of children’s spiritual development has forever changed my own relationship with my kids and the way I think about ALL children.

Having experienced her work first-hand, I urge anyone who wants their children to thrive, to work with Pearl and create meaningful relationships, lives, and legacies for generations to come.

Learning from our children is one of the most significant things we can do for the future of our world and Pearl Shanti is here to show us how.

Adriana Story Hill Co-Founder, ONE Legacy Works, Inc.

*The Crystal Essence is within you-It always was!!!*

ascension-copy (1)

By Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart

Note! (This letter is for YOU as well as for me-we are ALL in the same TRANSIT )

*Beloveds Angels on Earth – Please know that is your Blessing that this has been tough!!!

* Many people have written to me while I myself had to take a break from the computer world in order to transform.
Many wrote me the same words as this quote:

“I feel as if I am being pushed through the eye of a needle, like you say, being squeezed by a snake wrapped around me. It is as I am loosing my mind, Pearl. I am so exhausted, I feel as I could sleep for ever. I am totally powerless, I can not lift a finger. It is as the world is falling apart. I know that I am not alone, but on earth I know that I am so lonely, I feel my equals, but I do not see them.”

Yes, this is our transmission and these experiences are what we needed to go through … Your challenges means that you made it!!!
It is hard cuz we “ARE” not from Earth!!!
We only need to start by taking a step at a time, moving from third dimension and ascend to higher dimensions of consciousness, we have never been of the 3rd, we are from the 5th and 6th , but came to help rise the 3RD people.
Now our mission is complete and we are SQUEEZED back up to our original frequency, the combination of 5th and 6th, (the double and most unusual one ) to follow the steps of what we came here to COMPLETE-it is up to the individuals now To Rise on the Keys given…….
By raising our awareness (being conscious with our thoughts, feelings, emotions; claiming our personal power and aligning with the highest ) ; and leading others by setting example, we fulfill the DIVINE essence in us, in ALL!!! ………
We are now in this moment activating the Crystal essence which is all ready in each and every one of us…………..
Once we reach this inner and outer state of peace and oneness we shine like a rainbow after the rain or the toughest storm.
2 weeks of sleep helped me in this transcending, I thought that I had lost my mind before I gave in to my RESTING NEST, I HAD TO LET GO, I DIED ON THE CROSS (it felt as I did-honestly) !!!
We are not only carrying this tough experiences for ourselves, we are not exhausted only for us (the ME) , we are exhausted for the WORLD, we go into regeneration for HUMANITY….
We will transmute anything within and around us; we help ourselves, others and the world to ascend. We all come from the stars but we have chosen to come to earth in order to be the ANGELS we are……..
ALL knowledge of HIGHER frequencies is within us all, they are innate within each and every one. All we have to do is to access our inner LOVE and wisdom-the memories of who and what we are,and connect with our powerful psychic and healing abilities and our divinity-The LIGHT we came here to SHINE-YOU are the LIGHT!!!
As tough as it seams, we are simply flying.
I felt a few weeks ago as if I was crucified, not suffering as a victim, as we of high frequency never can, but I was just simply exhausted, I GAVE IN, I LET GO, I DIED, and slept for some days, a couple of weeks, then the Universe suddenly sent me the GUIDES, ANGELS, SOLUTIONS and the Answers needed…..
The contrast is so HUGE that it is difficult to believe what I now see, witness, enter and LIVE, still I do believe. You, Me, *WE* ARE SO SO SO EXPECTED -
YOU CAME HERE TO SHINE-YOU ARE JUST ENTERING YOUR REGENERATION STATE, CUZ YOU NEED TO SLEEP NOW-REST- SO YOU CAN RECEIVE WHATS ON IT`S WAY TO YOU IN A FEW WEEKS.
You called for a DREAM, Now you are waking up to LIVE IT, it just came true !!!
Just go in your DIVINE resting moods – There lies all you need right now………….IT WORKED for me, that is why we get exhausted, cuz the Universe is putting us to “sleeping beauties”, so our BODY can prepare for the 6th !
Sounds crazy, but it is the TRUTH…..
I know that you know it is OUR BLISS on the other side of this exhausted feeling. The Universe has heard your voice of LOVE, YOUR CRY and felt your tears………….
So now, they only put you to sleep so you can receive, that`s why you are exhausted-GIVE IN-JUST LET GO-GO TO BED!!! I DID ……I DID ………….HAHAHA……….. Just wait and see !!!
I am so happy for us ALL, so so happy!!!
I LOVE YOU-YOU ARE IN MY HEART…..ALWAYS!

See you on the other side!

Yours Sincerely,

Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart

I am a humble messenger for humanity, honored to of be here and to serve.

Author, Speaker, Visionary, Wayshower 

pearl:signatur-email

“I am your HEART Whisperer. I have come to AWAKEN the wisdom YOU already have within YOU!!”
 
Learn About My Foundation and My Work:
 
My Publishing Work and Portfolio:
 ”STAY Always in LOVE with LIFE and Always in LOVE with YOU!!!”
Founder & CEO of Hearts For A New LIFE Foundation

Parenting Highly Sensitive Children

By Erin Stephanie
Erin

As the world shifts and expands, the children being born at this time are coming to us with a higher level of sensitivity and awareness than ever before. They are here to answer our questions and, if we are open to them, they have the capacity to show us how to live a more inspired and peaceful life.

At the moment, we live in a world full of “boxes”, and our highly sensitive children are often misunderstood when they don’t fit into them. Some relatively new boxes have been created in hopes of helping us better grasp what our child is going through, but that can be hard as a parent when you feel like there is more to your child than what this label indicates; especially as the treatment can leave much to be desired.

This is by no means to shame parents for their choices or undermine their experience; it is simply to say that as positive as the western medicine scope of practice can be, their outlook seems to be too narrow for these children.

I strongly believe that, as parents, we always do the very best that we can for our children with the knowledge and tools we have, in any given moment.

This week, I would like to offer you some new tools; and I will be doing so through my complimentary teleclass: Parenting Highly Sensitive Children – 3 Keys to Understanding, Connecting and Supporting.

In this class, we will be talking about what traits are most recognized in highly sensitive children, how you can support them, and what that will look like.

I’ll share some of my experience as a Highly Sensitive Child, and answer your questions to help you get clarity on what you feel is in the highest good for yourself and your children.

There will be no telling you what to do; rather, I hope to guide you to seeing your child’s gifts on a deeper level than ever before, and supporting YOU as you support them on this wild and wonderful journey of Highly Sensitive life.

If this sounds like something you are interested in being a part of, please click the link below to sign up. There will be an email going out to everyone the day before the class that will have all the goodies you need to participate; including a link to a private Facebook group where you will have the opportunity to connect with other parents of Highly Sensitive Children and be reminded that you are not alone.

As a Highly Sensitive woman, it is my honor to be a voice for these children, in a way that meets them where they are and gives them an opportunity to live as their True Self.

Surviving is simply not enough anymore. So, I invite you to join me as we come together to create change so beautifully so that we, our children and everyone around us is enabled to THRIVE!

I’m looking forward to connecting,

Erin Stephanie

Coach for Mamas of Highly Sensitive Children

www.thesacredmamasjourney.com

 Sign up using this link:

http://www.thesacredmamasjourney.com/parenting-highly-sensitive-children—teleclass-october-1st-2014.html

And join us on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/SacredMamasJourneyWithErin

 

Becoming a conscious parent – a new book by Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart

MINBOK

We are living in a time of great changes all over the world. For those who have eyes to see, there is a paradigm shift happening in every scientific field.
This is also true when it comes to parenting. Conscious Parenting Paradigm ™
Parenting is the most important «job» in the world, yet it does still not have the priority it deserves. To a large degree parenting is still on autopilot, yet a growing awareness is rising, and more and more conscious parenting pioneers are coming forth.

Although most parents do the best they know how- there is a great need for guidance, support and inspiration.
What is really working when it comes to parenting ?
How can every parent help their child unleash their greatest potential for self-expression and happiness ?
And what if every parent take this to heart when guiding their children – would it not be the best tool ever to create a more peaceful world ?

Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart is in the very forefront in the area of conscious parenting – with a resevoir of love, wisdom and practical tools which will help every parent in their communication with children.
She walks her talk – herself being a mother of 3 powerful children with a lot to offer to the world.
She is helping parents on a daily basis – and in order to help more people she has written an inspirational new book, based on practical parenting wisdom and offering tools which will indeed be helpful for any parent.
Because every parent wants what is best for their child.

The name of her new book is «Becoming a conscious parent».

“Becoming a Conscious Parent” guides you in the most intimate and challenging paths of choice as a parent who creates ALONGSIDE your child, a new world which is in perfect harmony with Nature and all that is Sacred. The Hive Publications is delighted to share with you the voice of Pearl Shanti, recognized as a most powerful guide and teacher for people all over the world who seek a higher level of living with their families and their environment. This book will forever change the way you think of yourself and your children. It is an invitation to transcend old and ineffective traditions regarding your parenting and to develop a new worldview, one of utmost purpose and well-being.

Order the ebook “Becoming a Conscious Parent” at: www.thehivepublications.com

http://thehivepublications.weebly.com/meet-the-authors-and-contributors.html

Conscious Parenting Paradigm ™